This morning, my friend A's daughter texted me with an update on her mother's condition, saying that her mother seemed a little more alert this morning and the nurse was able to give her a few sips of water. But, she is still unable to swallow anything (they were trying to give her some applesauce). Then, she asked if my daughter and I could come to the hospital, today, too, even for a short time because "mom seems calm when you are with her". Of course, I said yes, I'll come!
I left a note to my gardener M, made some sandwiches and packed them along with some mandarin oranges and a packet of cookies, and we went to the hospital. I took my prayer book with me and said my morning prayers while seated by my friend's bedside. She seemed pleased to see me, smiling and trying to say, "Hi". She drifted in and out of sleep, but, they were able to remove the big oxygen mask that she was wearing (which she was trying to pull off) and replace it with a cannula (she would occasionally try to remove that, too!)
We spent the entire afternoon with her, from noon to a little after 5:00 p.m. She was more alert, but, she was unable to drink anything more or eat anything and the doctor ruled out inserting a feeding tube because her body is unable to process any nutrients as her systems are shutting down. Her husband and daughters are still holding out hope for an improvement in her condition, but, it truly seems like it is just a matter of time.
After we came home, we had a cup of tea and rested a bit. Brunch had been a sandwich; dinner was assorted leftovers - daughter had rice with the last of the Thai chicken stir-fry; I had soup and some of the baked potato wedges, warmed up. Afterwards, I called and chatted with friend R.
Today, I am grateful for:
- The opportunity to be there for A and her family during this difficult period
- Safe drives to the hospital and back
- M tending to the garden for me
- Working appliances
Today's joyful activity was being present for A and her family.
Plans for tomorrow include roasting the turkey and preparing a very simple Thanksgiving meal. Depending on A's condition, I will take some plates of food to her husband and daughters, tomorrow afternoon. A used to have us over celebrate Thanksgiving with her and her family for years, prior to the pandemic; it will be my turn to take a Thanksgiving meal to them, this year.
To all of my blog friends who will celebrate Thanksgiving, tomorrow, Happy Thanksgiving! May you enjoy the day in the company of family and friends and other loved ones.