When I got married (in Sri Lanka), I had reached the wedding venue before I realized that I didn't have a handkerchief with me. It was a hot afternoon, there was a power cut, and I was perspiring in a manner that was most unbecoming for a bride! LOL! Disposable facial tissues were a luxury, in that place and time, and everyone used cloth handkerchiefs.
My mother's cousin was with me in the room, at the time. Due to our custom of leaving for a wedding at an auspicious time, I had to leave the house several hours before the actual ceremony and wait in a room at the house where the marriage took place; my mother's cousin was keeping me company. She had been like a younger sister to my mother and I addressed her by our term for ones mother's younger sister, "punchi amma" which means "little mother". In return, she called me, "daughter". When she realized I didn't have a handkerchief, she pulled out hers from her handbag and gave it to me. It was a pale blue handkerchief and we joked about it being "something borrowed and something blue". I carried that handkerchief in my hand throughout the wedding ceremony (and used it, too!) Afterwards, I just kept the handkerchief, as my mother's cousin said I could keep it.
I keep the blue handkerchief in one of my dresser drawers, along with two others:
The other handkerchief was my mother's. How many times had she used one of her handkerchiefs to wipe my face when I was a child?
I don't use them, now. They stay in my drawer. Why am I keeping them? Do they "spark joy"? Yes. Not the items, themselves, of course, but what they stand for. To anyone else, they are just handkerchiefs, pieces of fabric. To me, they are a little more than that. They are mementos of people whom I loved and who loved and cared for me. I was blessed to have them in my life - my mother, my stepfather, my "little mother"; I am grateful for their love and caring. When I sorted out the drawer, I put the handkerchiefs back in there. They survived another decluttering! Plus, if ever my daughter wants "something borrowed, something blue", I'm ready!