|On Daughter's Quilt|
Woke up to a cloudy, overcast morning. There was even a little rain in the early afternoon, but it was sunny, later, and I was able to open the windows and air out the place. Now, however, the heater is on.
My daughter and I spent a quiet morning and early afternoon. My neighbor called for our weekly Sunday morning chat. Later, one of my cousins called and came over to get something she needed for her daughter. And my daughter climbed up on the step stool and got down all the dishes and items I needed for the almsgiving. These are items I use specifically for the almsgiving, so I keep them in the cabinet above the fridge, along with the Christmas china. I will wash them during the week and keep them, maybe in the non-working dishwasher, until needed.
In the afternoon, I dropped my daughter off at the airport. It rained a bit on the way to the airport, but it was clear when I came home. I took down and put away the Thanksgiving decorations. Then, I spoke on the phone with one of my aunts; she called to ask if I enjoyed her granddaughter's sweet sixteen party, yesterday. I told her I enjoyed it very much, indeed.
A certain kitty cat spent the entire afternoon and a good part of the evening curled up on my daughter's quilt. He was missing his favorite human.
|Missing His Favorite Human|
Later in the evening, I spoke with one of the monks at the temple. He and the other monks at the temple had been invited to participate in a memorial almsgiving that is also scheduled to be held on the same day as my almsgiving. Traditionally, such memorial almsgivings are held seven days after the death of someone and again, three months later. He said he had informed the person inviting them that they have a prior engagement, but he was wondering if I would be willing to reschedule my almsgiving to another day.
I recognize the need to be flexible under the circumstances and have rescheduled my almsgivings in previous years to accommodate the needs of others. About two years ago, this led to quite a bit of arranging and rearranging of schedules and flights being booked and cancelled and re-booked, etc., as days were switched back and forth a few times. But this year, I am depending on at least one of my friends to help me with the preparation of the meal and this friend has had to request a day off from work in advance to be free to help me with the cooking and serving of the meal, etc. It is doubtful if she'd be able to switch her day off to another weekend this month (she works in a store that is open seven days a week, so she doesn't automatically get the weekends off).
The following weekend is my friend's memorial service with lunch to follow. It is scheduled for that Saturday. There was a time when I could have attended one event on one day and prepared for an almsgiving the following day, but I am no longer able to do that. I don't have the stamina.
The weekend after that is the December monthly prayer gathering which is being hosted by a friend who made it a point to ask if it would conflict with my almsgiving, before she scheduled it. Which leaves the last weekend in December, which is Christmas.
So I informed the monk that it would be difficult for me to reschedule my almsgiving, this year, and we confirmed that my almsgiving will still be held as planned on next Sunday. I have finalized the menu and written out my grocery shopping list. But I feel conflicted, now, and guilty that I wasn't willing to reschedule my almsgiving. Sigh.
Sunday's To Do List:
- Rest - DONE
- Have daughter take down almsgiving dishes - DONE
- Take daughter to airport - DONE
- Do any "catch up" tasks from the week - NONE
- Take down/put away Thanksgiving decorations - DONE
- Confirm date with monks - DONE
- Finalize menu - DONE
- Write grocery list - DONE
Almsgiving Preparations List:
Week 1 (November 20- 27):
- Start cleaning the house (Dust/vacuum/tidy living room, dining area, family room, kitchen, bathrooms, bedrooms) - DONE
- Take down dishes used only for almsgiving and wash them (daughter to help when she comes down for Thanksgiving) - DONE (still need to wash them)
Week 2 (November 28-December 4):
- Confirm date with monks - DONE
- Finalize menu/grocery shopping list - DONE
- Wash dishes that were taken down
- Remind invitees
- Rearrange furniture - sofas, coffee tables, tall round side table (for reliquary), trolley (for plates of offerings), remove blue & white vases near fireplace (so I can set the small sofa in front of the fireplace)
- Grocery shop
Today, I am grateful for:
- Daughter had a safe flight back to Berkeley and a safe journey from the airport to her apartment
- The little bit of rain this afternoon, as every drop of rain counts
- The sunshine after the rain
- The almsgiving date stands and has been confirmed; I don't need to rearrange my schedule
- Daughter took down the dishes for me
How was your Sunday?